Three questions to ask yourself when you feel like you’re not connecting with God.
By: Erica Hunt
Spending time with God can be a deeply enriching experience, but there are seasons where it does not feel so enlightening. There are times in our Christian walk when we can feel really disconnected with God, even as we consistently keep up the spiritual practices that are supposed to deepen our relationship with Christ. We can feel let down when we make an effort to come to the Lord and spend time with Him and only feel as if He did not reciprocate the gesture.
A sense of dissatisfaction can be a good thing, if it shows that we desire a deeper connection. Taking time to evaluate our hearts will help us wade through the disappointing days when we feel disconnected from God. Here are three questions to ask yourself:
What do I mean when I say, “I do not feel connected with God?”
What do you actually mean by ‘connection’? Anytime you come to the Lord by reading his Word or spending time with Him in prayer is connection. How that connection makes you FEEL is going to be different almost every time. Do you mean that He did not make His presence known? Or that you did not feel emotionally connected? Were you expecting an audible voice or visions? Do you feel that He did not fulfill His “end of the deal” in some way? Take the time to be honest with yourself and with God and determine what exactly you are looking to get out of your quiet time.
Am I setting aside enough time to develop a meaningful connection?
This question can be tricky, because even our small moments, given sacrificially, can be pleasing to the Lord. But if you are spending moments in the Word, and feeling unsatisfied, it may be because you are not allowing enough time for a deep meaningful connection. Just as in any relationship, if we want to connect with someone, we spend time with them. Not a few minutes here and there, but good quality time over a cup of coffee or a shared activity. It’s the same with our heavenly Father. Finding some quality alone time with the Lord, may help deepen that connection.
Have I asked Him to connect with me?
Have you spent time in prayer preparing your heart for an encounter with God? Have you asked Him to reveal Himself to you in a deeper way? Have you asked Him to connect to your heart in a way that you can understand?
God is God; He can move mountains, part seas, hold the sun still, and answer you when you call out to Him. Sometimes, we have to be patient for His answer, but, until He does, we keep asking. Be persistent! God is not ignoring you. In Matthew, Jesus tells His disciples to “Ask, and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and it will be opened to you. For everyone who ask receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.” (Mathew 7:7-8) As disciples we too, are commanded to pursue the Lord in this way.
Be encouraged that God does want to connect and have a relationship with His people; so much so that He pursued, served, and died for us! But, as in any relationship, a rich relationship with Jesus involves our wanting, prioritizing, and seeking time with Him. Evaluate your heart, set apart regular times to spend with the Lord, ask Him to show up for you. Do not be discouraged if feelings don’t change right away. Our feelings do not change God’s love for us, or His desire to connect with us.
Erica grew up on the South Dakota prairie, along the Missouri River. Growing up her parents introduced her to Jesus and taught her to walk in His way. She keeps busy teaching 7th and 8th grade students who keep her laughing and humble. Along with her love of the land she enjoys traveling, learning fun facts and historical information, and is always up for coffee, ice cream and a good conversation with friends. She and her husband, Justin, have been married just over a year and live in eastern South Dakota.